Keeping families together

There are three parts to a family group meeting

• Information sharing: workers who know your family talk with you about the strengths that they see and their hopes for your family. They also share any worries they have and anything that they think might make your child unsafe e.g. contact with a particular person.
  
  
• Private family time: your family group are left to bring your own thoughts together and talk about the information from workers and make a family plan.
  
  
•  Agreeing the family plan: your family group, coordinator and workers agree on your family's plan (as long as it is a safe plan and meets your child’s needs).

• Your family are the experts and are often the best people to make safe plans for your children.
• It offers a chance to take time out from your busy family life, to talk about what is best for your child.
• It’s an opportunity for everyone to hear and understand one another.
• It’s an opportunity for your child’s voice to be heard.
• Children say they feel special when their families come together to help them.
• It gives your family control of decision-making.
• It helps your family to find their own strengths and solutions to their problems.
• Meetings are blame-free. 

• Your family decides who will be invited. Your family members will discuss and reach an agreement about who should be involved.
• Usually people are chosen who know and care about your child. This may include parents, step-parents, aunties, uncles, grandparents, next door neighbours and close family friends.
• Your family also chooses which workers you would like to invite to the meeting – usually those people who can help with information, advice or support.
• If a professional worker has suggested a Family Group Meeting then they would normally be invited to attend. This is particularly true when a social worker has requested a Family Group Meeting because they are worried that your child is at risk of harm.

The meeting is organised by a coordinator, whose job is to make sure that the family group meeting runs smoothly.

The coordinator is independent. That means that they will not already be involved in supporting or making decisions about your child or family.

The coordinator will work with your child, you and other parents or carers to plan the family group meeting.

This will include talking about:

• who you want to invite
• what you want to say at the meeting
• where and when the meeting should be
• what food and drinks there will be
• what needs to happen to make the meeting safe and comfortable for everyone.

The coordinator will visit everyone who has been invited to help them understand how the meeting will work, how to have their say and ensure everyone feels respected and included.

Children and young people usually take part in their Family Group Meeting. Their thoughts and feelings are very important when decisions are being made about them.

The coordinator will offer your child or young person the chance to have someone to help them with their family group meeting. This person is sometimes known as an advocate or meetings buddy.

Adults are also allowed to have an advocate or meetings buddy.

Your family decide if anyone else should receive a copy of the family plan. 

Your family and workers will work together to put the plan into action.

The coordinator arranges a review meeting, usually a few weeks to a few months after the original family group meeting

The review meeting lets your family come together to:

• celebrate what has worked
• make sure everyone is still following the plan
• make tweaks and changes to the plan
• add new parts to the plan.

If anyone is worried that the plan is not working, or if there is a family crisis, they can ask the coordinator to organise a review meeting as soon as possible.